Lent Physically and Spiritually Fit Challenge: 1st Sunday of Lent.


I know that when I first woke up on Sunday Morning, the soda I wanted all week and the excitement of no work out was a dream. Mainly because Sunday was the beginning of a flare up that still has not ended. On the notes of my journal for the bible study portion of the challenge, I contemplated something I do not do enough, which is rest.

I don’t know about you but I have trouble saying no and I always over commit myself. Before I got sick, this was not really a problem but since I have gotten sick it has pretty much kick me right in the behind.

I began to really ponder rest. Why God commands us to do it, why I need it, why it is so important. I hate it to be honest. I always feel like there is something I should be doing, that I am not doing enough. So I ignored taking my health into consideration. Things came back and bit me in the butt. Now everything is behind and overwhelming instead of prioritizing I just allow the enemy to tell me that I can’t get it done that I have to keep fighting that I do not need to rest.

However God says:

Genesis 2:3 “And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.”

Exodus 20:8-10 “Remember to observe the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. You have six days each week for your ordinary work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath day of rest dedicated to the lord your God. On that day no one in your household may do any work. This includes you, your sons and daughters, your male and female servants, your livestock, and any foreigners living among you.”

Oh wait, rest is so important it is not only a Commandment, God rests. God rests. What a blessing that he rests. We rests so we can be the best we can be and conserve our strength and so does He.

Exodus 33:14 “The lord replied, “I will personally go with you, Moses, and I will give you rest—everything will be fine for you.””

This also made me consider that with out rest things will not be okay. Rest is an act of mercy and a blessing from God and in this over stimulated world I think we forget that.

Day 4:

This year I most want to?:


Psalm 51:10-11 “Create in me a clean heart, O God.Renew a loyal spirit within me.Do not banish me from your presence,and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me.”

Proverbs 16:9 “We can make our plans,but the lord determines our steps.”4

I will achieve this by?


Isaiah 43:18-19 “But forget all that—it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. For I am about to do something new.See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?I will make a pathway through the wilderness.I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.”

John 14:6 “Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.”

Romans 12:2 “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”


So due to my health being in this state and being able to get everything else I want to get done. Weekly workout round ups will be posted on Saturday along with corresponding Journal day. And Sunday will have its own reflection.

Rose, coconut, grapeseed, hot oil treatment!

Yes I was very excited when it finally came time to turn the roses from my honey to make rose water.  (Click here for instructions)

 This always ends up like this :


Anyways on to the directions

2 Tablespoons of coconut oil

2 tablespoons of Grape seed oil

1 tablespoon of Rose Water

1 teaspoon of honey

2 drops olive oil

2 drops tea tree oil

2 drops lavender oil

Do all of your liquid in a bowl. and then add coconut oil

Microwave for 60 seconds

  It will look like this. It is enough for approx. 4-7 hair treatments depending on hair type. The mixture is good for a bout a week. Dry storage, do not refrigerate.


How to get Husbands to eat their veggies!




When trying o get my hubby to try asparagus, he pretty much refused. That was until I caught him eating it in something he did not know that it was in. Since then he was been cursed, or so he thinks. Here is my favorite way to eat this veggie, its super easy to make.



12 Asparagus Spears

1/2 stick of butter

1 tsp of:

cinnamon, clove, ginger, nutmeg

1/2 cup brown sugar



Pre-heat oven to 400 and wrap the bacon and asparagus and set aside.

Place: butter. brown sugar, spices into a small pot and stir until it liquefies. Immediately dump mixture on bacon and asparagus and place in oven for 30 mins. I would rinse that sauce pan next or it will be a pain. After 30-40 mins (Depending on how you like your bacon) place oven on broil and leave it on for 10 mins and boom your done!


Lent Physically and Spiritually Fit Challenge (Days 2 and 3)

So I just want to say since the original picture did not get great feedback I changed the image. I am also going to show you guys my current and hopefully in a little over a month I will have an after picture.

See there I am, a regular woman like everyone else. I am a size 10/12 and I am not looking to lose weight just to get in shape. I want to build strength to help me with my Fibro.

So no to get back on topic day 2:

Day two was a good day. I managed to actually get up early enough to do a 15 min work out in the morning and the evening.


Remembering that I have Fibro, and that yes this would probably take the average person 9 mins. However it really did take me 15. And boy did I need a shower yesterday. Not cause I stunk (well it was a morning work out so I guess I did) but I could not wait to get hot water all over my muscles. This was a great easy low impact workout. I will probably use this again in the coming days.


This was a perfect work out before my night shower. I have noticed to help my muscles I have been enjoying hot water as much as possible.

Journal Day 2 :

What do I want most in life?


Luke 12:29-31 “And don’t be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don’t worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.”

2 Corinthians 5:9 “So whether we are here in this body or away from this body, our goal is to please him”

Colossians 1:10 “Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better.”

How do I get there?

2 Chronicles 15:7 “But as for you, be strong and courageous, for your work will be rewarded.”

Psalms 20:4 “May he grant your heart’s desires and make all your plans succeed.”

Psalms 37:4 “Take delight in the lordand he will give you your heart’s desires.”
Proverbs 3:5-6  ” Trust in the lord with all your heart;do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do,and he will show you which path to take.”
Matthew 6:33 “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
Romans 8:28 ” And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them”
Day 3:
So I also have to be honest that with fibro work out days will vary from day to day. Living with chronic pain is awful. But I know that God gets me through. However I refuse to lie and say I don’t hurt or that the reason days 2&3 are in one post is because it hurt to type out the post. So I did manage to do a minor work out it was the same for morning and evening. I also still did my Bible Study. I do yoga to help my fibro, I always say easily repeated prayers (Glory Be, Our Father, Hail Mary, etc). The stretching has been amazing for me. This is just my personal experience.
This was perfect for the muscle stiffness I was feeling yesterday. It stretched out all the right moves and I still managed to do something. It is the little victories in my opinion.
Day 3 Journal:
What are my biggest barriers?
Psalm 27:1 “The lord is my light and my salvation—so why should I be afraid?The lord is my fortress, protecting me from danger,so why should I tremble?”
Isaiah 41:13 ” For I hold you by your right hand—I, the lord your God.And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you.”
James 1:19-21 “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.”
Why do they block me?
Joshua 1:18 “Anyone who rebels against your orders and does not obey your words and everything you command will be put to death. So be strong and courageous!”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.”
Philippians 4:13 “For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”
How Can I work on them?
Psalm 55:22 “Give your burdens to the lord,and he will take care of you.He will not permit he godly to slip and fall.”
Philippians 4:6 ” Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done”
1 Peter 5: 6-7 “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”

Lent Challenge: Becoming Healthier Physically and Spiritually! (Day 1)


Getting Spiritually and Physically Fit for Lent!


As you all know Wednesday was Ash Wednesday. And here is my public proclamation of faith!


So we all know the topic to follow is of course Lent! This year for Lent I have chosen to give up soda (because I do not need it). I also chose to take on becoming more spiritually and physically healthy.

I want my changes to stick after 40 days and I know that I can not do it alone. At first I wanted to join a fitness program. It seemed amazing the girl who ran it seemed awesome but hubby said no. Mainly because I always start the gym  and don’t finish it. So he said that if I could do the workouts on my pintrest board that cost nothing that I always say I am going to do, we  could revisit the conversation.

So for getting myself physically healthy I am going to work out for 30 mins a day six days a week. I will admit that some things will have to be modified for me because of my fibro, but that will be mentioned as it becomes relevant. All of the work outs I use in the challenge will be available here on My Lent Workout Challenge Pintrest Board 

Day 1:

Since it was my first day back and I was too lazy to break up my work out into two sets of 15 min. I ended up doing a full 30 min work out. I have to say that all of these were very Fibro friendly and low impact. I hope that in a few weeks this wont take 30 mins!!!!


Now on to getting Spiritually Healthy. Since I am trying to keep focus I on staying healthy. I wanted to use something I could incorporate both aspect of my goal for the Lenten season. I found this on my Pintrest Board and is available for you guys too:

While I will not post my answers I will post the scripture I have found to help me with these questions.
Day 1

Who am I?


2 Corinthians 2:10 “But anyone whom you have forgiven of anything, I also forgive. And then, too, anyone I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, it was done in the person of Christ for your sakes”

Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, who are not walking according to the flesh.”

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are his handiwork, created in Christ Jesus for the good works which God has prepared and in which we should walk.”

1 John 4:4 “Little sons, you are of God, and so you have overcome him. For he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.”

Psalm 139:14 “So then, truly, the just will confess your name, and the upright will dwell with your countenance.”

Who have I been?


Philippians 4:12-14 “I know how to be humbled, and I know how to abound. I am prepared for anything, anywhere: either to be full or to be hungry, either to have abundance or to endure scarcity. Everything is possible in him who has strengthened me. Yet truly, you have done well by sharing in my tribulation.”

Hebrews 6:1 “Therefore, interrupting an explanation of the basics of Christ, let us consider what is more advanced, not presenting again the fundamentals of repentance from dead works, and of faith toward God,”

Genesis 19:17 “And they brought him out, and placed him beyond the city. And there they spoke to him, saying: “Save your life. Do not look not back. Neither should you stay in the entire surrounding region. But save yourself in the mountain, lest you also should perish.””

Luke 9:62 “Jesus said to him, “No one who puts his hand to the plow, and then looks back, is fit for the kingdom of God.”

Who do I want to be?


Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think over you, says the Lord: thoughts of peace and not of affliction, so that I may give you patience and an end.”

Luke 9:23 “Then he said to everyone: “If anyone is willing to come after me: let him deny himself, and take up his cross every day, and follow me.”

Psalm 119:105 “Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the lord with all your heart;do not depend on your own understanding.Seek his will in all you do,and he will show you which path to take.”

Heirloom Tomato Salsa

My husband loves when I make salsa!!! Here is one recipe I thought I would share.

3 Heirloom Tomatoes

1 red onion

2 peppers (1 red 1 green)

1 small can tomato paste

1 can of Rotel

1 packet of Sazson

2 table spoons of Adobo

2 table spoons on mince garlic.

1/4 cup of hot sauce or 4 jalapeno peppers (with seeds)

Throw all ingredients in blender, and blend to how you like it.

Requirements for Submission: Does your husband love you like Christ loved the Church?


Does your husband love you like Christ loved the Church?

This has come up in multiple groups I belong to. It actually frightens me and I want to be very open and honest with all of my readers. Not everyone is going to agree with me however I want to spread this message.

First and Foremost! God has a definition of love. It is as follows “Love is patient and kind. Love is not JEALOUS or boastful or Proud or RUDE. IT DOES NOT DEMAND ITS OWN WAY! It is not irritable and it keeps no records of being wrong. It does not rejoice at injustice but rejoices when ever the truth wins out. Love never gives up and never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance” 1 Corinthians 13:47.

Secondly, these are some other definitions I want to talk about (and we probably don’t talk about it enough):

“Spousal abuse is generally defined as any abusive conduct between intimate partners who are married, dating, or residing in the same residence. It can refer to single instances of abuse, although it usually refers to a pattern of repeated or cyclical abuse over time”

“We define domestic violence as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person.”

“Verbal abuse (also known as reviling or “verbal bullying”) is described as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent.”

“Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse used by narcissists in order to instill in their victim’s an extreme sense of anxiety and confusion to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. … The emotional damage of Gaslighting is huge on the narcissistic victim.”

Lastly, this is what the Bible says about how husbands should act:

Genesis 2:24English Standard Version (ESV)

“ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Ephesians 5:25-29English Standard Version (ESV)

“25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,”

Colossians 3:19 English Standard Version (ESV)

“19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.”

1 Peter 3:7 English Standard Version (ESV)

“7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you[a] of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Now I do think that every one gets to make their own choices. However I want to be clear that God does give us Very Clear instructions on what to look for in a husband. Therefore if your husband does not meet the requirement you must look at the relationship in front of you and decide. I have seen the consequences of abuse and I do not want anyone (man,woman,or child) to be in an unhealthy situation just because they’re afraid that God will be upset. Please remember always to be a light to your Christian sisters and remind them that God FORGIVES!

  1. Is this a healthy Marriage or a marriage with the potential to be healthy?
  2. God will respond in your life and if you are paying attention you will know what to do with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
  3. If you marriage has any of the behavior in the definitions above you are in a sick and potentially dangerous situation. Reach out for help. (Links Below)

Join the fight stop domestic violence.


Lately I have been reading so many statements from women of all walks of life having this conversation. They seemed confused and  I was touched by the Holy Spirit because the Bible is very clear on the matter. Please see the links below if you or some one you know is in need of help. Or if you would like to get involved and join the fight against domestic violence.





St John Neumann Church, Annapolis, MD

I have to say that when I saw an advertisement for this event in my Church Bulletin, I was probably more excited than most people. However I do really feel as Catholics we live our faith through our works. Service work of all kinds is doing Gods work. This does include political public service (I know this fact surprises a lot of people but it is true). The MCC (MD Catholic Conference) describes their mission as “The public policy arm of the Catholic Bishops serving Maryland in the Archdiocese of Baltimore, Wilmington (DE), & Washington (DC)”.

I know what you’re thinking. The Church has a public policy arm? Why would they need a public policy arm? According to the Church:

“Role of the Church in Politics The Catholic Church, its parishes and Church organizations are prohibited by federal law from participating in partisan political activities. The tax-exempt status of a parish or Church organization may be revoked if there is a violation of the law, and other penalties and taxes may also be imposed on any funds spent on prohibited political activities. However, the Church does have a role in politics and public policy formation through activities such as:

  •  Educating Catholics and others on the teachings of the Church as they relate to social policies.
  • Analyzing and measuring policies against the values of the Gospel.
  •  Speaking out on issues, such as those involving the life and dignity of the human person, social justice, the promotion of the common good, and the life of the Church in society.
  •  Encouraging voters to participate fully in the political process

(You can find more information like this here)

Via Arch Dioceses of Wilmington

Lobby Night

I was extremely excited to participate on The Maryland Catholic Conference’s (MCC)  Lobby Night! This free event, allowed Catholics to lobby their opinions (and the Church’s) to their local legislators.

The following Issues were discussed. By clicking the links you can get THE CHURCH’S Opinion on each issues.

BOOST Scholarship Program

Physician-Assisted Suicide

Healthy Working Families Act

The “Trust” Act

 The MCC provided a lot of amazing information for each person to make their own educated decision. It was an amazing opportunity  to reach out to legislators to get our voices heard.

Delegate Chris Adams (R)

One of the delegates we got to meet was Chris Adams. Now even though it is a differing opinion than that of the church I still want to share it with you. Mainly because it is good the hear both sides of an issue (otherwise how would you make an educated choice?)

When asked about the Trust Act, Adams said the following ” [I] Oppose a bill that prevents law enforcement from doing their job of protecting and serving our rule of law. This is really doing ourselves a disservice. “

We also had the pleasure of meeting with Delegate Mary Beth Carozza. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting her before and we always have a good time. 

When I asked her about her opinion, about the Assistant Suicide Bill, she not only said she was opposed to the bill, she even said that she felt that the information sheets the Church provided were really informative and touched on all the key points.  (Click here for more information) 

What  this means to us as Catholics, is that we must pay attention to the world around us. Politics may sound boring, but if you are upset about something this is the system to change it. Staying involved with you community in anyway is doing God’s work. We must always remember that no matter what we do, we should do it for the glory of God.

Praying for Money?

On a message board on Facebook, (which has been one of the most amazing support groups ever) one of the members asked if it was okay to pray for money. Is it okay to pray for money?

This was my opinion: “I believe that praying for money for a need like a light bill would be okay but it would be wrong to ask for a million dollars”

The Holy Spirit touched my heart to go searching for answers.

Matthew 22:18-21 New International Version (NIV)

18 “But Jesus, knowing their evil intent, said, “You hypocrites, why are you trying to trap me? 19 Show me the coin used for paying the tax.” They brought him a denarius, 20 and he asked them, “Whose image is this? And whose inscription?”21 “Caesar’s,” they replied.Then he said to them, “So give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.””

So this above verse is about taxes but it makes some very good points about money. “Whose image is this?” Jesus said. The point he is making is that money is a tool of the state. The state is just another way the world and the enemy try to make you stumble of your path. So as we can see very clearly, Jesus says money has no place in the kingdom.

So now we know that Jesus opinion of money is that it has no place in God’s Kingdom. But we do live in the world and we are subject to that hence Jesus clearly saying that we should still pay our taxes.

So as the Holy Spirit and I continued on my journey of discovery, I can across this verse.

Matthew 6:31-32New International Version (NIV)

“31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.”

This verse touched my heart. I think that it is interesting that this is the verse God has placed in front of me for this but I digress. When God sees that we are in need he will provide. God does not say anything about wants. Another thing is that this time of year to have this verse make a comment about how we should not be like pagans who “run after all these things”.  God wants us to focus on our needs any wants provided are a blessing.  God has no problem with us praying for anything. He wants us to pray, you may not get what you want but they always say “be careful what you pray for you just might get it”.

What about presents? What about praying to provide presents for our children and families? Well remember that pagans run after these things. However I know that like myself, we want to give our love ones the best blessings God will allow us to provide.

Proverbs 16:19 (CPDV)

“It is better to be humbled with the meek than to divide spoils with the arrogant.”

God wants us to be humble. God does not want us to be attached to the world.

Sirach 20:31 “Presents and gifts blind the Judges and silenced their mouths, turning them aside from their task of correction”

We all have a God given task. We must work to not allow ourselves to blinded by moneys and gifts.


After my study I can to final conclusion. God wants us to have faith in him so it is okay to pray for money. God wants us to converse all of our wants and needs to him. If it is a need God will provide. A want is a blessing, we ask to be blessed all the time. To even ask for a million which sounds so excessive but if you were a banker maybe it is not. It is circumstantial. It is never wrong to talk to God about anything.  When we become Christians we are born again. To much time wasted in asking God for possessions will not allow you to grow in your faith.

CCD Week 7: A Real Act Of Mercy



So I do not know if there are any other CCD teachers out there who also have to do “keeping our promises” ( which is a response to dealing with the issues of child abuse in the church), but I would love suggestions. A few weeks ago we were covering boundaries. I was shocked by the actions of my fourth graders.

“Why do we have to learn this?!”

“This is a girl problem!”

“This is stupid”

“Rape doesn’t happen around here” (Yes they said rape I was shocked they knew what this was however this student has older siblings)

I could go on with this list however this is not what I want to dwell on.

I ended up racking my brain for weeks trying to figure out what I was going to do to reach these kids. And with Sunday being that last day in the Year of Mercy, I finally was inspired by the holy spirit. I wrote them this letter:

(I probably went a little thick with the Catholic Guilt)

To My 4th Graders,

Today is the last day in the Year of Mercy. I know that you guys enjoyed learning about Mercy, we did fun projects and I really thought you guys grasped the concept. However when it came time to put mercy into real life situations, I noticed you guys did not grasp the concept. I want you guys to remember back to when we discussed boundaries with the third graders (we have to do the same keep our promises as the third graders and with it being such heavy subjects its nice to have a group of adults in the room). I want everyone to remember their behavior that day as I explain to you the following:

The definition of Mercy is: an act of compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone when it is in one’s power to harm.

I know that we do not like talking about “keeping our promises”. They are not fun topics but they are not jokes either. I head the class says things like “this is a girl problem” “it can’t happen to us” “boring”. Along with all of your moaning and groaning.

I want you all to know that the reason we have to discuss this uncomfortable topics is because it can happen to you. And if  you guys are uneducated then you are unprotected. Abuse happens to 1-4 girls and 1-6 boys. With those odds that means at that abuse can happen to at least four people in this room right now. It also means that when you make jokes about it you are reinforcing the idea that abuse is not a big deal. When it is. Joking can make a person uncomfortable, and it can persuade them to keep quiet and not reach out for help.

It was an unmerciful act and unacceptable behavior. You guys are not in trouble I just want you to take this seriously. So today we will make up for our unmerciful behavior.

We are going to write cards with encouraging words for the children at our local child advocacy center.  This center is less than a mile away from our church, because it happens to kids in our town everyday. It also can happen to you and we do have the power to make a difference with our small acts of mercy. It is easy for you guys to forget the luxury of having a stuffed animal to sleep with at night when you are afraid. I pray every night that none of you will ever be afraid like the children at the center. We will also be writing a thank you card for the women who work at the Carriage House (our church’s thrift store), who donated these stuffed animals to help you with your act of mercy.

I want you all to know that I love you guys and I would not trade any of you. I just want you to understand that this behavior is not okay and that the first step in making a difference is to change your thinking. I am going to read from Proverbs 3 to show you what the Bible says about your behavior.


After reading the note there was silence but once we got started the kids were really happy to help. One even teared up and when we ran out of our 25 stuffed animals they were upset that we had run out. “But Ms. Bella, that means only 25 kids get animals”, I had to reassure them that I would collect more animals. My 8th grade aids and my teacher aid we excited about this. It really did touch my heart.

But it gets better. You see that picture up top? The one of the small basket of stuffed animals. Well what I never expected was how much a small basket of toys could really mean. My friend is a social worker and she took me down to drop off the animals. When speaking to the other case worker at the center she got choked up, we all did. And when she told me that we could always bring more because those would be gone pretty quick my heart sank.

So we will continue to collect animals and to help these kids, I never expected this to be such a touching experience. My heart goes out to those children, and I pray for them every night. So my class and I will continue to collect animals as long as people continue to give them, because God has touch our hearts. I really did reach not only my students but adults and kids in need. I consider this a teaching win!