Home Making and Chronic Illness: For when you’re not feeling so INDUSTRIOUS!

 

I have to admit, the reason it has taken me this long to write this post is because I had to work out some personal issues before I could share my story with the world.

I wish my pouting was this romantic!

So I guess on that note, I should just stop beating around the bush and say what I need to say. I did not want to write this because I was embarrassed. I felt as though industrious and my name could not even be in the same sentence. So I pouted about it for a few days until the Holy Spirit touched my heart.

I happen to have the opportunity to go through my Home Management Binder, and I did not realize how tracking task could even be this helpful! I realized how much I actually accomplished!

Colossians 1:29 (NLT)

That’s why I work and struggle so hard, depending on Christ’s mighty power that works within me.

When I saw this verse it was like God spoke to me. I realized. I work 35 hours a week, I am on a board, I write this blog (which is my ministry), I teach CCD, I also make attempts to clean our house, make sure we have dinner, food, and that is just the tip of the iceberg!

I want all of my friends out there with Chronic Illness to remember that you are more because you do it with less. I also want you to know that even small accomplishments are big ones. Even if you don’t work! If you work to take of your home or help with your husband job, or even have a side job, or just take care of the kids you’re doing it!

Just because you aren’t perfect doesn’t mean you are not modeling your life after perfection. Honestly once you admit that fat right there, you are stepping in the right direction!

2 Chronicles 15:7 (NLT)

But as for you, be strong and courageous, for your work will be rewarded.”

Grillin with the Gov

 

With all the political turmoil going on in the world right now regardless of what you believe it is important to get involved. Change starts with you the individual not with society.

This past weekend, I was able to attend the 6th annual Gov BBQ, with Gov. Hogan and it really is an honor to hear him speak. His speaking skills portray his down to earth personality  while still articulating his points intelligently.

Posted by Greater Wicomico Republican Women on Saturday, June 24, 2017

 

Gov. Hogan has done so much for the state of Maryland. You can find out what he has done and is doing here.  

Gov. Hogan is also a Catholic and is doing this for the church as well. You can find that info here.

I am also happy to say that not only is he bringing back jobs to the state of Maryland but he is also working on international relations.

Here we are with First Lady Yumi Hogan (First Korean First Lady ) and the Congressman of South Korea representing the Prime Minister.

The crowd was so diverse it was great to see. So many people came, and we all really enjoyed the fellowship. It was nice to see we aren’t the party of old white men anymore!

 

Like I said the party of old white men. If you are interested in getting involved click here. 

Relax Devotional

 

So I am happy to announce that I came in 3rd place for the faithwriters.com writing competition.  I can say that my lack of beta shows and I know now where to improve. I am just so blessed that I can share my relationship with God with all of you!

I know that we all have been struggling lately. You can not turn on the TV or even look at your phone with out seeing the state of the world today. As a Christian it actually hardens my heart to the world. Christ commands us to be an example on how to not live in the world but as my heart hardens; I slip slowly back into the world I was begging God to help me escape. I slip back in to the world because I get angry about the state of things and I sit back and do nothing. I slip back into the world because I let fear over take me and I begin to worry. However I know that walking in faith means giving up worry for trust and faith in Christ. And what a blessing to strive for! To be affirmed enough in faith to be able to relax and trust God when all you want to do is worry. “ In peace I will lie down and sleep for you alone, O Lord, will keep me safe” (Psalms 4:8). I remind myself of this daily yet the thoughts inside my head continued to spin until the Holy Spirit said to me “I am with you”. It was the faintest sound, but I know I heard it and in that moment I knew what it meant to relax, to be at peace. Once I realized the he truly was with me slowly my brain and body began to relax. I struggle with anxiety and depression but He is with me and I can relax knowing “I will fear no evil.”

Home Making and Chronic Illness: You are more because you do it with less.

 

I just want to make it know to all of my readers. I am not perfect. I struggle to do daily tasks; and I was like this long before I got sick or saved. I also want everyone of you to know that I pray that on day we will all day be able to live with out pain. Even if it is for only one day. I pray that we all are able to cherish the good days and remember that its okay that when you are well that you went out with your husband or friends instead of cleaning your house. We all deserve to walk among the living for we too are also living, just differently.

I have learned a few things in this study of this verse:

  • Idleness is not Rest and God does want us all sick or not to rest. For if you are well and do not rest you will get sick and if you are already sick you will get sicker.
  • A home management binder helps you fight idleness, fibro fog, and depression! You see when I first started using it I thought it was stupid. As the week went on though it fought my depression because I could encourage “next day Bella” and motivate myself by seeing all that I had done. Every little thing you do does matter and God and the people that love you notice. I also can fight memory problems by writing things down and it helps my husband see whats going on as well.
  • If you take anything away from   this at all I hope it is this:

You are more because you do it with less. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Its not a lie, its true you just have to have faith in God and yourself. If you have faith in God he will help you gain faith in yourself eventually. You just have to hang on. Remember God says “Do not fear for I am with you” and if you continuously remind yourself of this TRUTH, you will become a better Chronic Illness Warrior!

Join me now as we looking into the next part of being a Proverbs 31 woman: INDUSTRY!

Yes we can be industrious even when we are sick and I am going to tell you how. I love you all and you are in my prayers.

Home Making and Chronic Illness: Idling or Resting??

 

So after three days of fighting Fibro and CVS, I finally managed to completely clean my room and check it off my cleaning schedule! I am so happy! However, everything does have it’s price: I was up at 1 am for about 45 mins with weird muscle spasms/charlie horse/dead leg thing happening in my calves and I was up again at 3 am, getting sick because of my CVS (this is a reoccurring theme though). It was unpleasant, to say the least. But through all the pain and vacuuming, I learned more than I ever could imagine. You see, Proverbs 31:27 talks about the bread of Idleness and what I did not understand was that there is a difference between idleness and rest.

According to the dictionary Rest is defined

noun

1.

the refreshing quiet or repose of sleep:

a good night’s rest.

2.

refreshing ease or inactivity after exertion or labor:

to allow an hour for rest.

3.

relief or freedom, especially from anything that wearies, troubles, or disturbs.”

While Idleness is defined as:

“noun

1.

the quality, state, or condition of being lazy, inactive, or idle:

His lack of interest in the larger world and his consummate idleness were the causes of their dreadful divorce.

adjective, idler, idlest.

1.

not working or active; unemployed; doing nothing:

idle workers.

2.

not spent or filled with activity:

idle hours.

3.

not in use or operation; not kept busy:

idle machinery.

4.

habitually doing nothing or avoiding work; lazy.

5.

of no real worth, importance, or significance:

idle talk.

6.

having no basis or reason; baseless; groundless:

idle fears.

7.

frivolous; vain:

idle pleasures.
verb (used without object), idled, idling.

10.

to pass time doing nothing.

11.

to move, loiter, or saunter aimlessly:

to idle along the avenue.

12.

(of a machine, engine, or mechanism) to operate at a low speed,disengaged from the load.
verb (used with object), idled, idling.

13.

to pass (time) doing nothing (often followed by away):

to idle away the afternoon.

14.

to cause (a person) to be idle:

The strike idled many workers.

15.

to cause (a machine, engine, or mechanism) to idle:

I waited in the car while idling the engine.
noun

16.

the state or quality of being idle.

17.

the state of a machine, engine, or mechanism that is idling:

a cold engine that stalls at idle.”
It was not until I read these definitions, did I understand that I was not being idle because I sat down to either prevent pain or because of pain. I also learned a definition of a new word as well:
I had finally realized that I had been incorporating this philosophy to my life and not even realizing it! So YAY ME! I also conquered my personal demons when applying this way of thinking to my daily life: I learned that I am more productive if I work WITHIN my Illness and not AROUND it. I am not a failure if I am sick and can’t do something right away! I am not being a good wife only if I do not adjust to my new normal. I am not being true to myself only if I continue to run around and get nothing done! So I want to say to everyone out there who is suffering from a chronic illness of any kind: God wants you to rest. If you do not, you cannot be the woman from Proverbs 31 He has called you to be. You must not only learn to rest but to accept that sometimes doing less is more.

Some More  Scripture to help you in these times of struggle are:

Isaiah 26:9
 In the night I search for you;
in the morning(Hebrew within me.) I earnestly seek you.
For only when you come to judge the earth
will people learn what is right.
Even in our pain if we earnestly seek the Lord, he will comfort us. We must always have faith in that.
Isaiah 14:7
But finally the earth is at rest and quiet.
Now it can sing again!
I also learned that when you do finally rest, you can do more! Essential-ism needs to be applied to life with Chronic Illness and God agrees. You are not less because you can’t do more. You are more because you do it with less.

Homemaking and Chronic Illness: The Reality

 

 

 

Once again, still not me but might as well be me. Yesterday, I had a terrible flare up. It was awful; I couldn’t hold my legs up, my throat felt like it was closing and it was so hard for me to swallow! Not to mention MUSCLE SPASMS EVERYWHERE! So, to be quite honest, I did not get anything done. Or so I thought. When looking at the Home Management Binder To-do list, I realized I still had managed to accomplish 5 of my unending list of tasks. I also realized that, well, some tasks are just going to take me a little bit longer. However, despite my flare up, I did manage to fall asleep. All I could think was a prayer: “God when I wake up please let be able to feel better tomorrow.”

Look, I have been experiencing a flare up for the last three days. It’s BS! I am going to be completely honest: it sucks! However, because of God I have the ability to get up and try again. If I have realized anything it is that in this adjustment I must accept the following facts:

  • Tasks will transfer over
  • Some days nothing is getting done
  • It is okay to REST
  • Remember that if you are tracking your to-do list you will see you are getting things done.
  • And of course remember:

Psalm 34:18

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.”

Revelation 21:4

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.”

So all I can do is try again today but I know that the Lord is close and He will help me fight this pain.

Home Making with Fibro

This is super intimidating for me. I have to admit when I was diagnosed I had already been dealing with the pain for a while. However, the depression that comes with the pain caused me to become apathetic to my whole situation. I ignored everything and everyone I cared about. I wasn’t sure how to do deal with the pain and I struggled with accepting that I was always going to be hurting.

However when readjusting to life I realized that my house isn’t going to clean itself. Not that my husband has not picked up a TON of the slack but still. My husband have a division of chores that worked for us. But when I got sick every time I would get up to clean I would get overwhelmed.

^^Not me but pretty much sums up me every time  I would try to tackle my house since climbing out of this depression.

But I have a standard to meet and I have to adjust it so that I can still be the best wife possible without giving in to this depression.

But God tells us in Psalm 73:26

26 My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak,
but God remains the strength of my heart;
he is mine forever.
So with that amazing motivation I decided to get practical!
I chose to create a Home Management Binder that would be perfect for some one like me:
Here are the Printables and Recommendations:
  • Get yourself a Columnar Pad. It costs about $10 at Walmart, but when you divide that by 12 it is cheaper than any printables with the price of ink and it allows for you plenty of room. Click here to purchase! 
  • Also get your self some Dividers and Find the cheapest ones! I found these on Walmart.com but they have cheaper ones in store! Click here to purchase. 

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  • It should be kept simple! Do not overload it. You are better off creating a separate binder or that continuously adding to the Home Management binder. The Following Should be kept in binder.

1.Groceries

Home Inventory

Pantry Inventory

Fridge Inventory

I make attempts to stock pile and use coupons. Due to Fibrofog I tend to forget what I have and don’t. This will help me keep track and fight the fog!

2.  Daily Tasks

Ever feel like the day is in charge of you? Set that right by using this free printable daily planner to plan your day!

Click here to get it! 

I used this one because it allows me to have a small set of proiorites. That way I can say wow I did what I had to and extra with out overloading myself with tasks which is something I am known for!

3. Bills

4. Cleaning

This check list is great because it allows yo to check off indivual tasks that need to be done in a week very add and fibro friendly list!

5. Emergency&Important Info

Dates to remember

Emergency Info 

Password Keeper

6. Misc (stuff that comes and goes. Do not let it REMAIN)

For number 6 I just used a divider and lined paper.

If you need more or less for you Binder, this site has the most friendly of printables!

CLICK HERE 

Building Foundations on Uneven Ground

” It is not the beauty of a building you should look at; It is the construction of the foundation that will hold the test of time” – David Allen Coe

Now that my husband and I can start laying the foundation for our lives, we have become so overwhelmed we end up slowly but surely making little to no progress. However the Holy Spirit touched my heart and I realized “If I can adjust to being sick then I can go back to my life slowly but surely. I have faith that God will guide me there”. As if a light bulb went off instantly.

But how does one just get up and go after being down for so long. The first step is always asking for help. So I prayed “God please guide me through the readjustment process”.

I knew that my first step would be to reestablish God as my foundation for my life.

1 Corinthians 19-20.

19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself,

20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

When we become Christians we are to allow Christ into all aspects of our lives. Now when you get a Chronic Illness this task becomes more and more difficult to over come.

How does God want me to build this foundation?

1 Corinthians 3:11

11 For no one can lay any foundation other than the one we already have—Jesus Christ.

FANTASTIC!!! I don’t have to build the foundation at all! God has already done it for me. I just now have to find the strength to stand on the foundation and trust it to hold me up. This is easier said than done.

However God has given me instructions on what it means for me as a woman to stand on this very trusting and solid foundation. All I have to do is follow the instructions in Proverbs 31. Join me over the next few weeks or however long this takes me. As I rediscover what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman with a chronic illness.

Inspiring Women in Red

Posted by Greater Wicomico Republican Women on Thursday, June 8, 2017

 

I wanted to share this amazing video of Del. Marybeth Carozza giving a great speech on how running for office can make a difference. We had such an amazing turn out and I am proud to be apart of organization actually working to make a difference in my community!

I did Field Better Soon

 

So normally I am not one with buying soaps, or any kind of wellness product that I can not make myself. I am so grateful to my friend Mel for convincing me to try this soap. I give it five stars and it was worth the money I paid for it.

I suffer from panic attacks and this soap has so much lavender, I actually began to feel better when I turned on the shower. The whole bathroom quickly filled up with the smell and it was calming and intoxicating. I prefer a boiling hot showers (its one of my favorite luxuries in life), and so as the water began to hit my skin and open my pores I started to calm down.

I am not saying this is good for a panic attack every time. However, I will say that as soon as I got out the shower I was calm. I give it five stars and I just had to share with all of you. This product does work for minor panic attacks in my opinion. It will help you de-stress and wash that awful day off of you.

 

You can purchase this soap here.