Inspiring Women in Red

Posted by Greater Wicomico Republican Women on Thursday, June 8, 2017


I wanted to share this amazing video of Del. Marybeth Carozza giving a great speech on how running for office can make a difference. We had such an amazing turn out and I am proud to be apart of organization actually working to make a difference in my community!

I did Field Better Soon


So normally I am not one with buying soaps, or any kind of wellness product that I can not make myself. I am so grateful to my friend Mel for convincing me to try this soap. I give it five stars and it was worth the money I paid for it.

I suffer from panic attacks and this soap has so much lavender, I actually began to feel better when I turned on the shower. The whole bathroom quickly filled up with the smell and it was calming and intoxicating. I prefer a boiling hot showers (its one of my favorite luxuries in life), and so as the water began to hit my skin and open my pores I started to calm down.

I am not saying this is good for a panic attack every time. However, I will say that as soon as I got out the shower I was calm. I give it five stars and I just had to share with all of you. This product does work for minor panic attacks in my opinion. It will help you de-stress and wash that awful day off of you.


You can purchase this soap here.

Rose, coconut, grapeseed, hot oil treatment!

Yes I was very excited when it finally came time to turn the roses from my honey to make rose water.  (Click here for instructions)

 This always ends up like this :


Anyways on to the directions

2 Tablespoons of coconut oil

2 tablespoons of Grape seed oil

1 tablespoon of Rose Water

1 teaspoon of honey

2 drops olive oil

2 drops tea tree oil

2 drops lavender oil

Do all of your liquid in a bowl. and then add coconut oil

Microwave for 60 seconds

  It will look like this. It is enough for approx. 4-7 hair treatments depending on hair type. The mixture is good for a bout a week. Dry storage, do not refrigerate.


How to get Husbands to eat their veggies!




When trying o get my hubby to try asparagus, he pretty much refused. That was until I caught him eating it in something he did not know that it was in. Since then he was been cursed, or so he thinks. Here is my favorite way to eat this veggie, its super easy to make.



12 Asparagus Spears

1/2 stick of butter

1 tsp of:

cinnamon, clove, ginger, nutmeg

1/2 cup brown sugar



Pre-heat oven to 400 and wrap the bacon and asparagus and set aside.

Place: butter. brown sugar, spices into a small pot and stir until it liquefies. Immediately dump mixture on bacon and asparagus and place in oven for 30 mins. I would rinse that sauce pan next or it will be a pain. After 30-40 mins (Depending on how you like your bacon) place oven on broil and leave it on for 10 mins and boom your done!


Heirloom Tomato Salsa

My husband loves when I make salsa!!! Here is one recipe I thought I would share.

3 Heirloom Tomatoes

1 red onion

2 peppers (1 red 1 green)

1 small can tomato paste

1 can of Rotel

1 packet of Sazson

2 table spoons of Adobo

2 table spoons on mince garlic.

1/4 cup of hot sauce or 4 jalapeno peppers (with seeds)

Throw all ingredients in blender, and blend to how you like it.

Requirements for Submission: Does your husband love you like Christ loved the Church?


Does your husband love you like Christ loved the Church?

This has come up in multiple groups I belong to. It actually frightens me and I want to be very open and honest with all of my readers. Not everyone is going to agree with me however I want to spread this message.

First and Foremost! God has a definition of love. It is as follows “Love is patient and kind. Love is not JEALOUS or boastful or Proud or RUDE. IT DOES NOT DEMAND ITS OWN WAY! It is not irritable and it keeps no records of being wrong. It does not rejoice at injustice but rejoices when ever the truth wins out. Love never gives up and never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance” 1 Corinthians 13:47.

Secondly, these are some other definitions I want to talk about (and we probably don’t talk about it enough):

“Spousal abuse is generally defined as any abusive conduct between intimate partners who are married, dating, or residing in the same residence. It can refer to single instances of abuse, although it usually refers to a pattern of repeated or cyclical abuse over time”

“We define domestic violence as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person.”

“Verbal abuse (also known as reviling or “verbal bullying”) is described as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent.”

“Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse used by narcissists in order to instill in their victim’s an extreme sense of anxiety and confusion to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. … The emotional damage of Gaslighting is huge on the narcissistic victim.”

Lastly, this is what the Bible says about how husbands should act:

Genesis 2:24English Standard Version (ESV)

“ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Ephesians 5:25-29English Standard Version (ESV)

“25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,”

Colossians 3:19 English Standard Version (ESV)

“19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.”

1 Peter 3:7 English Standard Version (ESV)

“7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you[a] of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Now I do think that every one gets to make their own choices. However I want to be clear that God does give us Very Clear instructions on what to look for in a husband. Therefore if your husband does not meet the requirement you must look at the relationship in front of you and decide. I have seen the consequences of abuse and I do not want anyone (man,woman,or child) to be in an unhealthy situation just because they’re afraid that God will be upset. Please remember always to be a light to your Christian sisters and remind them that God FORGIVES!

  1. Is this a healthy Marriage or a marriage with the potential to be healthy?
  2. God will respond in your life and if you are paying attention you will know what to do with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
  3. If you marriage has any of the behavior in the definitions above you are in a sick and potentially dangerous situation. Reach out for help. (Links Below)

Join the fight stop domestic violence.


Lately I have been reading so many statements from women of all walks of life having this conversation. They seemed confused and  I was touched by the Holy Spirit because the Bible is very clear on the matter. Please see the links below if you or some one you know is in need of help. Or if you would like to get involved and join the fight against domestic violence.


St John Neumann Church, Annapolis, MD

I have to say that when I saw an advertisement for this event in my Church Bulletin, I was probably more excited than most people. However I do really feel as Catholics we live our faith through our works. Service work of all kinds is doing Gods work. This does include political public service (I know this fact surprises a lot of people but it is true). The MCC (MD Catholic Conference) describes their mission as “The public policy arm of the Catholic Bishops serving Maryland in the Archdiocese of Baltimore, Wilmington (DE), & Washington (DC)”.

I know what you’re thinking. The Church has a public policy arm? Why would they need a public policy arm? According to the Church:

“Role of the Church in Politics The Catholic Church, its parishes and Church organizations are prohibited by federal law from participating in partisan political activities. The tax-exempt status of a parish or Church organization may be revoked if there is a violation of the law, and other penalties and taxes may also be imposed on any funds spent on prohibited political activities. However, the Church does have a role in politics and public policy formation through activities such as:

  •  Educating Catholics and others on the teachings of the Church as they relate to social policies.
  • Analyzing and measuring policies against the values of the Gospel.
  •  Speaking out on issues, such as those involving the life and dignity of the human person, social justice, the promotion of the common good, and the life of the Church in society.
  •  Encouraging voters to participate fully in the political process

(You can find more information like this here)

Via Arch Dioceses of Wilmington

Lobby Night

I was extremely excited to participate on The Maryland Catholic Conference’s (MCC)  Lobby Night! This free event, allowed Catholics to lobby their opinions (and the Church’s) to their local legislators.

The following Issues were discussed. By clicking the links you can get THE CHURCH’S Opinion on each issues.

BOOST Scholarship Program

Physician-Assisted Suicide

Healthy Working Families Act

The “Trust” Act

 The MCC provided a lot of amazing information for each person to make their own educated decision. It was an amazing opportunity  to reach out to legislators to get our voices heard.

Delegate Chris Adams (R)

One of the delegates we got to meet was Chris Adams. Now even though it is a differing opinion than that of the church I still want to share it with you. Mainly because it is good the hear both sides of an issue (otherwise how would you make an educated choice?)

When asked about the Trust Act, Adams said the following ” [I] Oppose a bill that prevents law enforcement from doing their job of protecting and serving our rule of law. This is really doing ourselves a disservice. “

We also had the pleasure of meeting with Delegate Mary Beth Carozza. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting her before and we always have a good time. 

When I asked her about her opinion, about the Assistant Suicide Bill, she not only said she was opposed to the bill, she even said that she felt that the information sheets the Church provided were really informative and touched on all the key points.  (Click here for more information) 

What  this means to us as Catholics, is that we must pay attention to the world around us. Politics may sound boring, but if you are upset about something this is the system to change it. Staying involved with you community in anyway is doing God’s work. We must always remember that no matter what we do, we should do it for the glory of God.

Praying for Money?

On a message board on Facebook, (which has been one of the most amazing support groups ever) one of the members asked if it was okay to pray for money. Is it okay to pray for money?

This was my opinion: “I believe that praying for money for a need like a light bill would be okay but it would be wrong to ask for a million dollars”

The Holy Spirit touched my heart to go searching for answers.

Matthew 22:18-21 New International Version (NIV)

18 “But Jesus, knowing their evil intent, said, “You hypocrites, why are you trying to trap me? 19 Show me the coin used for paying the tax.” They brought him a denarius, 20 and he asked them, “Whose image is this? And whose inscription?”21 “Caesar’s,” they replied.Then he said to them, “So give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.””

So this above verse is about taxes but it makes some very good points about money. “Whose image is this?” Jesus said. The point he is making is that money is a tool of the state. The state is just another way the world and the enemy try to make you stumble of your path. So as we can see very clearly, Jesus says money has no place in the kingdom.

So now we know that Jesus opinion of money is that it has no place in God’s Kingdom. But we do live in the world and we are subject to that hence Jesus clearly saying that we should still pay our taxes.

So as the Holy Spirit and I continued on my journey of discovery, I can across this verse.

Matthew 6:31-32New International Version (NIV)

“31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.”

This verse touched my heart. I think that it is interesting that this is the verse God has placed in front of me for this but I digress. When God sees that we are in need he will provide. God does not say anything about wants. Another thing is that this time of year to have this verse make a comment about how we should not be like pagans who “run after all these things”.  God wants us to focus on our needs any wants provided are a blessing.  God has no problem with us praying for anything. He wants us to pray, you may not get what you want but they always say “be careful what you pray for you just might get it”.

What about presents? What about praying to provide presents for our children and families? Well remember that pagans run after these things. However I know that like myself, we want to give our love ones the best blessings God will allow us to provide.

Proverbs 16:19 (CPDV)

“It is better to be humbled with the meek than to divide spoils with the arrogant.”

God wants us to be humble. God does not want us to be attached to the world.

Sirach 20:31 “Presents and gifts blind the Judges and silenced their mouths, turning them aside from their task of correction”

We all have a God given task. We must work to not allow ourselves to blinded by moneys and gifts.


After my study I can to final conclusion. God wants us to have faith in him so it is okay to pray for money. God wants us to converse all of our wants and needs to him. If it is a need God will provide. A want is a blessing, we ask to be blessed all the time. To even ask for a million which sounds so excessive but if you were a banker maybe it is not. It is circumstantial. It is never wrong to talk to God about anything.  When we become Christians we are born again. To much time wasted in asking God for possessions will not allow you to grow in your faith.

CCD Week 7: A Real Act Of Mercy



So I do not know if there are any other CCD teachers out there who also have to do “keeping our promises” ( which is a response to dealing with the issues of child abuse in the church), but I would love suggestions. A few weeks ago we were covering boundaries. I was shocked by the actions of my fourth graders.

“Why do we have to learn this?!”

“This is a girl problem!”

“This is stupid”

“Rape doesn’t happen around here” (Yes they said rape I was shocked they knew what this was however this student has older siblings)

I could go on with this list however this is not what I want to dwell on.

I ended up racking my brain for weeks trying to figure out what I was going to do to reach these kids. And with Sunday being that last day in the Year of Mercy, I finally was inspired by the holy spirit. I wrote them this letter:

(I probably went a little thick with the Catholic Guilt)

To My 4th Graders,

Today is the last day in the Year of Mercy. I know that you guys enjoyed learning about Mercy, we did fun projects and I really thought you guys grasped the concept. However when it came time to put mercy into real life situations, I noticed you guys did not grasp the concept. I want you guys to remember back to when we discussed boundaries with the third graders (we have to do the same keep our promises as the third graders and with it being such heavy subjects its nice to have a group of adults in the room). I want everyone to remember their behavior that day as I explain to you the following:

The definition of Mercy is: an act of compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone when it is in one’s power to harm.

I know that we do not like talking about “keeping our promises”. They are not fun topics but they are not jokes either. I head the class says things like “this is a girl problem” “it can’t happen to us” “boring”. Along with all of your moaning and groaning.

I want you all to know that the reason we have to discuss this uncomfortable topics is because it can happen to you. And if  you guys are uneducated then you are unprotected. Abuse happens to 1-4 girls and 1-6 boys. With those odds that means at that abuse can happen to at least four people in this room right now. It also means that when you make jokes about it you are reinforcing the idea that abuse is not a big deal. When it is. Joking can make a person uncomfortable, and it can persuade them to keep quiet and not reach out for help.

It was an unmerciful act and unacceptable behavior. You guys are not in trouble I just want you to take this seriously. So today we will make up for our unmerciful behavior.

We are going to write cards with encouraging words for the children at our local child advocacy center.  This center is less than a mile away from our church, because it happens to kids in our town everyday. It also can happen to you and we do have the power to make a difference with our small acts of mercy. It is easy for you guys to forget the luxury of having a stuffed animal to sleep with at night when you are afraid. I pray every night that none of you will ever be afraid like the children at the center. We will also be writing a thank you card for the women who work at the Carriage House (our church’s thrift store), who donated these stuffed animals to help you with your act of mercy.

I want you all to know that I love you guys and I would not trade any of you. I just want you to understand that this behavior is not okay and that the first step in making a difference is to change your thinking. I am going to read from Proverbs 3 to show you what the Bible says about your behavior.


After reading the note there was silence but once we got started the kids were really happy to help. One even teared up and when we ran out of our 25 stuffed animals they were upset that we had run out. “But Ms. Bella, that means only 25 kids get animals”, I had to reassure them that I would collect more animals. My 8th grade aids and my teacher aid we excited about this. It really did touch my heart.

But it gets better. You see that picture up top? The one of the small basket of stuffed animals. Well what I never expected was how much a small basket of toys could really mean. My friend is a social worker and she took me down to drop off the animals. When speaking to the other case worker at the center she got choked up, we all did. And when she told me that we could always bring more because those would be gone pretty quick my heart sank.

So we will continue to collect animals and to help these kids, I never expected this to be such a touching experience. My heart goes out to those children, and I pray for them every night. So my class and I will continue to collect animals as long as people continue to give them, because God has touch our hearts. I really did reach not only my students but adults and kids in need. I consider this a teaching win!

CCD Week 6: We Do NOT worship Mary



I know it may seem that this weeks craft and activity was boring but we have something my kids and I needed to discuss.

You see last week in our review one of the questions was “Do we worship Mary”. Unfortunately my class answered yes in unison. Time for a sit down.

First we all had to explain who is Mary. That my kids knew

  1. Mother of Jesus
  2. Answer of Prayers
  3. Saint

Next we needed to discuss the difference between honor and worship. So more thinking questions for the kids.

  1. Did Mary create the Earth?
  2. Do we praise her when things go right in our lives when we did not pray to her?
  3. When we pray do our intentions go to her or to Jesus (unless of course we are praying to her)

So I then had to explain to my point because they looked at me like I had ten heads. We pray to God, we praise him, we credit God for the things that go on in our lives (good or bad). So do we do those things for Mary?

The answer is no.

We do however honor her. There is a simple reason we honor Mary. It is so simple, because God honored her. She is a model of submitting your will to God. It is frightening to be a young unwed teenager mother now let alone during her time. God picked Mary for a reason. Her strong faith, she trusted God even though the future looked bleak. This is a great model for all Catholics. So God had honored her by choosing her to be the mother of Jesus and who are we to argue.

One of my students was like “Now I actually know the answer because people’s parents have asked me this”. That made me sad but I will avoid that soap box.

We made blue crosses and the kids decorated them. In HONOR of our Blessed Mother.


We then finished our year of Mercy Project: